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4 questions....5 Different Points of View-- The Serial Dater...
written by jenniferp on August 14, 2007

We have compiled a list of 4 questions that we have often been asked by our members. In order to get the best answers, we went straight to the source -- the GUYS. Today we are posting the answers from one of our 5 guys ....this one is ....THE SERIAL DATER

“The Serial-Dater”: 42 years-old and never-been-married, this man about town is a Wine Store Owner and self-proclaimed “Serial-Dater”.

1. WDYKAR: Do men like it when women dress provocatively? Do they like it when a woman shows a lot of skin?

A: That is a loaded question and the answer is yes, unless of course the answer is no. What do I mean? Most guys want to be wooed and dressing provocatively is certainly a great way to attract a guy-- until you’re together-- and all of the sudden that provocative tank top and short leather mini skirt have all the other guys ogling and hitting on you. Then the guy goes into jealous mode, so you start dressing less provocatively which of course leads the guy to wonder why you’re not dressing sexy like you used to. Do you see a little vicious cycle here?

2. WDYKAR: Why does a man take a woman’s then never call?

A: This is the 21st century. If you’re flirting with a guy, and he asks for your number, just turn the tables on him and take his number instead. Call him or not - at least you’ve taken control. As to why men don’t call….because they can.

3. WDYKAR: When it comes to having sex on the first date, is there still a double standard? It’s ok for the man but it makes the woman look bad.

A: Yes there is still a double standard, but maybe not as double. Hooking up is much more casual than back in the day, but for a long term relationship it might paint the wrong picture. It seems that people in their twenties kind of take it as it comes (pun sort of intended), if they like the girl it’s okay, if it’s just a hook up then it doesn’t matter anyway. If you’re in the moment, go with what you feel and deal with the consequences later. If the guy is really into it it won’t make you look bad, if he isn’t just move on.

4. WDYKAR: At what point do guys consider it a real relationship and not just a fling?

A: It’s a real relationship when he takes his profile down from Match.com.

NEXT UP-- the True Romantic.....check back for more!

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Comments:

Interesting..... by dizzygirl on September 08, 2007
Someone should ask him what it would take to make him settle down. I think some guys are just wasting our time!!

Don't Take His Number by The Dating Coach on September 21, 2007
I disagree with this male expert's idea - Do Not Take His Number! Contrary to Popular Belief, that will keep him from calling and in no way put you in the driver's seat. As women, we want men to call us. Otherwise, how will we know if he really likes us? The only way to know is to see if he calls, when he calls, how long it takes him to call and how often he calls. If we take over the pursuit and call, none of that information can be collected. We won't know until it's too late if he's curious, flattered or ready to pursue. Very Bad Idea. Give the guy your number - he doesn't call - it's his loss! Move on to the multitude of other fish in the sea of men. Resist the urge to pursue and save yourself a lot of confusion and heartache. That's what this Dating Coach says. www.NeverTooLate.biz

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